This is all well and good, but it does involve a certain amount of waiting. However, some of us may be beginning to feel that we don’t necessarily want to wait, right?
What if the guy we’re interested in is actually interested back, but needs a gentle nudge? Maybe he’s waiting for you.
Read on for ways to make the first move…
1. Type your contact information into his phone.
Let’s say you strike up a great conversation with a guy you meet at a party or at an event. You hit it off pretty well, find out you have a lot of things in common, and the evening ends but you know you’d like to see him again.
Our smartphones are always with us these days. So, at the end of your time together, ask to borrow his phone.
Write down your phone number and your name with a short descriptor (+65 XXXX XXXX ‘Rachel—biggest Harry Potter fan next to you’, or Emily—loves 80s music). Something that will make him smile every time he sees it.
This is pretty bold but sometimes you just have to go for it.
2. Slide into his inbox with a conversation starter
Ahhh, social media, what did we ever do without you? Everybody can send messages to the people they meet and friend or follow across different platforms.
So you meet someone, and you think they’re attractive, and you want a chance to get to know them better.
Send them something — a link to something you have in common, or had a conversation about. An interesting quiz. A gif that you know will make them laugh. A video of a cat playing the piano.
This sends the message that you want to keep the conversation going. And if he feels the same, he’ll bite.
3. Ask him out on your birthday or other special occasion
If you’re hoping to take a friendship with a guy to the next level, wait for a special occasion and then take advantage of it by asking him out.
It will be very hard for him to say no to you on your birthday or an occasion like a good friend’s wedding or your grandparents’ golden anniversary.Who knows, you might start out as friends, and end up as something more.
After all, you have each other’s undivided attention for at least a few hours and it’s a perfect opportunity to get to know each other well.
4. Enlist your friends for a group date
This is one of the oldest ways to get to know a guy you’re interested in a little bit better. After all, what are besties for? Tell a few of your friends that you’re interested in someone, and you’d like an opportunity to spend some time with him.
Get a group together – it shouldn’t just be you, your BFF, and the guy either, since that could turn out to be quite awkward.
A casual setting where there isn’t a lot of pressure should give you a chance to get to spend some quality time with the guy you have your eye on.
5. Use the ‘I have an extra ticket’ gambit
Let’s say you just happen to buy an extra ticket to an event that you know he’d be interested in. What better way to get together than to invite him to come with you?
He’ll be grateful, which will put him in a good mood. And you’ll have the advantage of having him all to yourself for a good few hours and seeing where it goes from there. You can even extend the evening by asking him out for a drink or even a meal, afterward.
This article first appeared in thenewsavvy.com
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