True equality is for everyone but should not come at the expense of men forgetting the type of conduct that sometimes goes unnoticed but makes the world a better place.
In the spirit of feminism, perhaps these rules should apply to everyone equally even if they often go unspoken.
Introductions
First impressions count. You can tell a lot about someone when you first meet them, so make an effort and begin with a strong and firm handshake. And never shake a hand while seated.
Stand up, look the person in the eyes, and it wouldn’t hurt to crack a smile.
Defend honour
Protect those behind you and respect those beside you. Stand up voluntarily for those that cannot defend themselves. Speak out and speak up for those that do not have a voice.
Don’t look the other way or ignore injustices committed by strangers and even more importantly, by family, friends or acquaintances.
Social graces
If you are not invited to an event or outing, don’t ask to go or invite yourself. If you’re invited, never insult the food or drinks served when you are a guest.
Do show some self-restraint and try not to eat the last piece of something you didn’t bring or make.
Don’t answer messages and calls during meals, or better yet, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table altogether.
Humility
Don’t hesitate taking responsibility or blame for something. The ability to admit when one is wrong, apologising, and de-escalating situations is an admirable trait, and not a sign of weakness.
Never take or accept credit for someone else’s work and always give credit and praise to whoever and wherever it’s due.
Dress and speak appropriately
Aim to dress well no matter what the occasion is. Wear age-appropriate attire that’s clean and presentable. Don’t sacrifice your comfort and avoid being too overdressed or too underdressed by finding a middle ground.
Speaking with proper grammar commands respect while foul language should be used sparingly, if ever at all.
Be present
Having two ears and one mouth conveniently reminds every one of the golden ratio of listening twice as much as you speak.
Actively listen to what others are saying, nod in acknowledgement, and maintain good eye contact.
Always ask more questions than you answer while engaging in any discussion.
Honesty and integrity
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be fearless and speak the truth even if it is uncomfortable. Follow through with actions that match what’s been said. And be reminded that words carry weight and can leave a lasting impression, both good and bad.
Show restraint in expressing anger by staying calm, composed, and in control.
Reg Ching is a walking quadriplegic (OKU), digital nomad, business consultant, medical cannabis advocate, and cryptocurrency enthusiast. Follow his journey at regching.com