Every couple fights, at least once in a while, and it’s usually when both are under some degree of stress.
Needless to say, traveling will give you added stress especially when unexpected things keep cropping up. As a result, many couples do end up getting on each other’s nerves when traveling together.
Instead of fooling yourself into thinking that no one fights during a wonderful vacation, it’s important to accept that fighting is normal and learn some useful tips on how to deal with it better.
Stay calm
It’s easy to lose your cool with your loved one when you’re about to miss your flight or when you’ve just had your luggage stolen.
In moments like these, take a deep breath and keep your temper in check. Remind yourself that you do not need to explode over everything and that all will soon be alright.
Spend some time apart
If you’ve been arguing a little too frequently, you’ll find that even small things have the potential to irritate one or both of you, leading to yet another unnecessary argument. In circumstances like these, it’s helpful to have some alone time to cool off.
This is a chance to actually miss each other. Go get your nails done while he enjoys a beer or two. After your alone time, you may come back missing each other more than ever, and what made you squabble earlier will seem insignificant now.
Love and respect
The longer you stay in a relationship, the more likely you are to lose that feel of romance. As such, make the conscious effort to show love and respect toward each other instead.
If your husband looks tired or stressed, give him a hug or make room for some alone time for him, depending on what he prefers.
If your wife looks like she needs some space, do not intrude. After being in a relationship with her, you should know best what to do.
Be the one who was wrong
Sometimes, an argument can seem to last forever because neither wants to admit they were wrong. But, is it worth the price if being right means attacking and hurting the one you love?
Occasionally, you need to step down and admit to being wrong even if you’re adamant that it wasn’t your fault.
Ironically, if you do, your partner or spouse may stop being so defensive and realise their mistake.
Avoid fighting in public
If you simply must have an argument, find a private place to air your grievances. This is not a reality show.
What’s even more annoying than a crying baby on the plane? A fighting couple. Since most couples tend to fight over lame issues, there really is no need to tell the world about it. The reaction of those around you may even add fuel to the fire, which will only serve to make things worse.
This article first appeared in hellodoktor.com and was reviewed by Dr Duyen Le. The Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.